As my grandkids call me, “Pop Pop,” I find myself navigating the inevitable march of time. While recent health challenges, like hernia surgery and a persistent snoring problem (these are but a few of the conditions I am having to address), have forced me to confront my mortality, they’ve also illuminated a renewed sense of purpose and optimism for the year ahead.
A Year of Unexpected Twists
The aging process, as I’ve recently learned, is a series of unexpected detours. My recent double-sided, double hernia surgery, a stark contrast to the simpler procedure I underwent decades ago, has been a humbling experience. The recovery process this time has been arduous, filled with discomfort and limitations. However, it has also provided an opportunity for reflection and gratitude. I’m thankful for the support of my loved ones who have guided me through this challenging period. Last time I had hernia surgery I was back in the swimming pool and in the courtroom arena within days, no such luck this time. My days have instead been filled with painful nights, daytime naps, and many trips to the bathroom.
Similarly, my nightly symphony of snores has become a source of both amusement and frustration for my long-suffering partner, Lissa. This unwelcome development has led me down a veritable rabbit hole of snoring remedies. Nose strips, mouth tape, even a sleep study for sleep apnea—all have been enlisted in the war against the snore. Currently, I’m experimenting with a device called SnoreRx, hoping it will finally bring some semblance of peace to our shared slumber.
These challenges have forced me to reevaluate my priorities. While my athletic pursuits, like swimming, Peloton riding and weightlifting, have been curtailed, I’ve found solace in quieter and less challenging joys. Writing, reading and volunteering have become integral parts of my life. I won’t be a candidate for Jeopardy, but maybe my reading will make me smarter and more efficient in my volunteer activities. Post-surgery, I’ll transition to indoor rowing, a less strenuous but still fulfilling form of exercise. No more competitive swimming: my hands and feet weren’t long enough and finlike enough anyway.
Community Involvement and Future Goals
I’m particularly proud of my involvement in various community organizations. My work with the Rotary Club of Los Gatos, the Los Gatos Thrives Foundation, and the Community Health and Senior Services Commission has allowed me to make a tangible impact on my community.
As we move into 2025, I’m excited about the future. The Los Gatos Thrives Foundation’s ambitious project to build a new community center is gaining momentum, and I’m confident that our collective efforts will bring it to fruition. Additionally, I’m committed to addressing mental health issues within our community as a member of the Community Health and Senior Services Commission.
Lissa and I co-chair the community project and grants committee in Rotary Club of Los Gatos and following an activity-filled year of volunteer endeavors in 2024, we’re planning more volunteer projects, including a Red Cross blood drive, in 2025. I’m also exploring other volunteer opportunities.
A New Chapter Begins
Perhaps the most significant development of all: I’ve taken a leap of faith and proposed to Lissa. We’ve been together for thirteen years, so this isn’t a rash decision. After over four decades as a divorce attorney, I’m embracing a new chapter filled with love, hope and optimism. In a moment of unexpected courage, I surprised her on Thanksgiving Eve with a heartfelt proposal, accompanied by a rather botched rendition of an Elvis Presley song (“Falling In Love With You”). I shocked her to the core, as she was convinced, I would never get married.
As I reflect on the past year, I’m filled with gratitude for the experiences, both good and bad, that have shaped me. While the future is uncertain, I approach it with a sense of hope and anticipation. 2025 holds the promise of new beginnings, personal growth, and continued community involvement.
Apart from the marriage thing, Pop Pop may not be going big in 2025, but he’s proceeding cautiously and meaningfully.
